Guideline # 10 Let Your Relationship Die
This guideline may seem a bit strange. Letting your relationship die sounds like a bad idea for a maintaining a healthy relationship but just let me explain exactly what I mean. Every relationship goes through changes. For example, the romantic infatuation stage of meeting someone new and enjoying
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Guideline # 9 for a Healthy Relationship: Leave Nothing Unsaid
This statement “leave nothing unsaid” is meant to be taken in the proper context. I don’t mean let every word or thought, kind or unkind escape your lips. I don’t mean that you should tell your friend or partner every single thing you think or
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Creating and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
What is a boundary? A boundary is a clear communication that respects yourself and others based on your values, what matters most to you and your personal rules and limitations. A boundary is like an invisible line in the sand between two people, that creates respect. Boundaries are not
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Guideline # 8 for a Healthy Relationship: Spend Time Apart
While I am a wholehearted supporter of spending time together and I have seen the benefits of this in my own relationship, spending time apart is equally valuable and necessary. It seems to me that when people are feeling insecure in their relationships the first
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Guideline # 7: Don’t Compromise
Yes, you read that correctly. Don’t compromise and I mean that too. I know that sounds like the worst relationship advice ever given, but stay with me and I will explain.
Give and Take (Offering and Accepting)
Relationships really are about give and take but that can be a problem
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Learn to Listen.
Learning how to listen to your partner will completely change your relationship. FYI: Listening is not the same thing as waiting for your turn to talk. (Sometimes rather impatiently) Listening is the ability to suspend your ideas and opinions and create an opening in your being to let the words, feelings, expressions
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Guideline # 5 : It’s all about you.
I know how selfish that sounds and it’s not what you think. All of your relationships are yours and that makes them all about you.
In each relationship there are really two relationships, the relationship you have with the other person-that’s one relationship and the relationship the
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Guideline # 4: Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
I borrowed this from Stephen Covey‘s book The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. It is habit number 5. This has been absolutely fundamental in all of my relationships including that of my kids, friends, strangers, relatives, parents as well as my husband. It
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Guideline # 3 Be The Change. . .
So you don’t like the way someone else is behaving? Maybe your husband snores, your wife is messy, your best friend expects you to call him/her. In every relationship there is the challenge of accepting the other person’s idiosyncrasies, habits and personality traits. Most of us fall
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Guideline # 2 No Expectations and Obligations
Okay, I know this is a tough one but it has been one of the most transformational tools for creating healthy relationships in my own life. No Expectations. I mean it too. Expectations are set-ups for disappointments for two reasons: things rarely happen in life the way we
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