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Are you Inner Focused or Outer Focused?

Are you Inner Focused or Outer Focused?

Written by on January 22, 2014 in On Relationships

After having an interesting conversation with my son about the similarities and differences between himself and his siblings I noticed that people in general tend to be either inner focused or outer focused, with of course some folks falling right on the median line between the two. After thinking it through and talking to other […]

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Guideline # 10 for a Healthy Relationship

Guideline # 10 for a Healthy Relationship

Written by on November 26, 2012 in On Relationships with 0 Comments

Guideline # 10 Let Your Relationship Die This guideline may seem a bit strange. Letting your relationship die sounds like a bad idea for a maintaining a healthy relationship but just let me explain exactly what I mean. Every relationship goes through changes. For example, the romantic infatuation stage of meeting someone new and enjoying […]

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Guideline # 9 for a Healthy Relationship

Guideline # 9 for a Healthy Relationship

Written by on October 24, 2012 in On Relationships with 0 Comments

Guideline # 9 for a Healthy Relationship: Leave Nothing Unsaid This statement “leave nothing unsaid” is meant to be taken in the proper context. I don’t mean let every word or thought, kind or unkind escape your lips. I don’t mean that you should tell your friend or partner every single thing you think or […]

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Creating and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries

Creating and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries

Written by on October 10, 2012 in On Relationships with 5 Comments

Creating and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries What is a boundary? A boundary is a clear communication that respects yourself and others based on your values, what matters most to you and your personal rules and limitations. A boundary is like an invisible line in the sand between two people, that creates respect. Boundaries are not created […]

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Guideline # 8 for a Healthy Relationship

Guideline # 8 for a Healthy Relationship

Written by on October 8, 2012 in On Relationships with 0 Comments

Guideline # 8 for a Healthy Relationship: Spend Time Apart While I am a wholehearted supporter of spending time together and I have seen the benefits of this in my own relationship, spending time apart is equally valuable and  necessary. It seems to me that when people are feeling insecure in their relationships the first […]

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Guideline # 7 for a Healthy Relationship

Guideline # 7 for a Healthy Relationship

Written by on September 4, 2012 in On Relationships with 2 Comments

Guideline # 7: Don’t Compromise Yes, you read that correctly. Don’t compromise and I mean that too. I know that sounds like the worst relationship advice ever given, but stay with me and I will explain. Give and Take  (Offering and Accepting) Relationships really are about give and take but that can be a problem […]

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Guideline # 6 for a Healthy Relationship

Guideline # 6 for a Healthy Relationship

Written by on August 9, 2012 in On Relationships with 0 Comments

Learn to Listen. Learning how to listen to your partner will completely change your relationship. FYI: Listening is not the same thing as waiting for your turn to talk. (Sometimes rather impatiently) Listening is the ability to suspend your ideas and opinions and create an opening in your being to let the words, feelings, expressions […]

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Guideline # 5 for a Healthy Relationship

Guideline # 5 for a Healthy Relationship

Written by on July 9, 2012 in On Relationships with 0 Comments

Guideline # 5 : It’s all about you. I know how selfish that sounds and it’s not what you think. All of your relationships are yours and that makes them all about you. In each relationship there are really two relationships, the relationship you have with the other person-that’s one relationship and the relationship the […]

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Guideline # 4 For a Healthy Relationship

Guideline # 4 For a Healthy Relationship

Written by on May 21, 2012 in On Relationships with 3 Comments

Guideline # 4:  Seek first to understand, then to be understood. I borrowed this from Stephen Covey‘s book The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. It is habit number 5. This has been absolutely fundamental in all of my relationships including that of my kids, friends, strangers, relatives, parents as well as my husband. It […]

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Guideline # 3 For a Healthy Relationship

Guideline # 3 For a Healthy Relationship

Written by on May 1, 2012 in On Relationships with 2 Comments

Guideline # 3 Be The Change. . . So you don’t like the way someone else is behaving? Maybe your husband snores, your wife is messy, your best friend expects you to call him/her. In every relationship there is the challenge of accepting the other person’s idiosyncrasies, habits and personality traits. Most of us fall […]

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